When parents separate they are often surprised at the changes they see in their children’s behavior. While granted some changes can and often are due to the emotions they are trying to process from such a huge change as their parents separation as long as they are given support to help them deal with the change coupled with the knowledge that each parent loves them they will eventually be okay with the change from one home to two. However once they are accepting of the change, you can be baffled by the child’s poor choices within each home, all you want is harmony within your blended family.

It is at that time that the tips below can be very helpful to restore the harmony that comes from all of the family members being in sync with one another and with the goals, and expectations of both homes.

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While I respect that you as their biological mother might rather your child not bond with me, I don’t know your reasons for sure; Perhaps you are upset at how it all went down between you and your ex. Perhaps you don’t know enough about me as a person and are wary of what kind of influence I’ll be on your child. Perhaps you are worried about your child sharing their affections between us. Perhaps you just don’t like me for other reasons.

 

 

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3 years ago I was married and officially became a step-mother to 2 girls. Going from one child to 3 was a monumental change. But it wasn’t just a big change in the ways that I had imagined.

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When you meet someone amazing, who happens to have kids, at some point you realize that if things get serious, you are going to be a step-parent!! There are few positive role models for step-parenting (Disney definitely isn’t a fan!) and it isn’t at all the same as becoming a parent yourself. As a step-parent for eighteen years with five steps and seven step-grands, there are a few things I wish that I’d known back at the beginning. Here are my top 5 step-parenting tips:

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