Brenda Yoder, MA

Brenda is a writer, speaker, and educator. She has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a BA in Education.

MP900442243 150x150 Build Your Childs Confidence in One Easy StepSchool started this week for thousands of students. I work in a school and love the excitement of the first day. There are faces filled with excitement, uncertainty, anxiety and anticipation. One parent recently asked me, “How can I build my child’s confidence?”

My answer? You can build your child’s confidence by following one principle:

What you believe about your kids is what they’ll believe about themselves.

Kids take their emotional and internal cues from the adults around them. When adults respond in fear, kids respond in fear. When adults criticize a leader, kids doubt that leader’s ability. When adults lack confidence in a child, a child responds with insecurities.  When an adult believes in a child’s strengths and reinforces those strengths, a child believes he is able to accomplish tasks with those gifts. Building your child’s confidence relies heavily on what your child perceives you think about them.

How do kids perceive what parents believe about them? It happens both internally and non-verbally.

  • A parent says their child is “quirky” and the child believes there is something not quite right with them.
  • A parent pushes their child to perform in a sport or activity the child doesn’t excel at, and the child believes he has to perform in order to be accepted.
  • A parent spends more time with others than the family, and a child believes she is unimportant.
  • A parent swears at a child and the child believes he is isn’t worthy of respect.
  • A parent criticizes a child’s appearance or awkwardness, and she believes she is not good enough.

Get the picture?

Anxiety, insecurities, self-esteem and fear diminishes when a child knows the positive things adults believe about them. Words are powerful to a child, both positive and negative. You can have an incredible impact on your child when your pour positive truths into their spirit. 

  • When they hear you say, “You’re strong, you can do this!,” they will gain confidence.
  • When they hear you say, “You worked hard today” on something they’ve done, they know you see their effort, not their end result.
  • When they hear you say, “I’m proud of you” for no apparent reason, they believe they have worth.

Each school year brings challenges.  

You can build your child’s confidence by giving them positive encouragement.

You can ease their fears about a new school year by letting them know you believe in them. It’s a simple step that doesn’t cost a thing.

Now go – invest in your child today!

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